A Certain Slant of Light

A strong AMEN to your penultimate paragraph. And the one before that! I guess people do get rightly angry that the heroes in male-focused aren't expected to rein in to the same degree--or maybe it's not that they're not expected to rein in, but that they're expected to for reasons of principle rather than gender. And what you're saying in the penultimate paragraph--which is actually a stronger feminist statement, I'd say--is that women should *also* be asked to rein in for reasons of principle rather than gender. "Don't burn things in a fit of anger; it's terribly destructive and not good for human relationships" as opposed to "Don't burn things in a fit of anger; it isn't ladylike."