...I am envisioning a Mutual Criticism session now where one of the criticisms is "You never criticize anyone at Mutual Criticism!" Surely the Oneida Community also had conflict averse members who needed to be convinced it was a positive social duty to tell other people their faults. How could they begin to approach spiritual perfection if they didn't know what stood in their way?
The other thing that strikes me is this: if, today, I criticize a friend, there's a real chance it will end up destroying the relationship. But in the Oneida Community, that fear didn't hang over every criticism: even if someone did feel hurt by a criticism (and I'm sure people must have sometimes), they couldn't just pick up their toys and go home. The relationship would continue and be repaired.
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Date: 2017-07-17 12:49 pm (UTC)The other thing that strikes me is this: if, today, I criticize a friend, there's a real chance it will end up destroying the relationship. But in the Oneida Community, that fear didn't hang over every criticism: even if someone did feel hurt by a criticism (and I'm sure people must have sometimes), they couldn't just pick up their toys and go home. The relationship would continue and be repaired.