That's my impression as well. I totally agree about the "everything we told you last year is wrong" issue in general. But while this might be local, in my experience therapists don't think grief must last a specific time or have specific stages. I was also specifically taught the opposite in therapist school. "You're doing emotions wrong" is a major issue in the community, but that particular version of it seems to be coming more from the wider culture than from the professionals.
I do meet a lot of grieving people who've been told that bullshit about grief, but they seem to have gotten it from pop psychology articles written by non-professionals, cultural osmosis, and non-therapists they know. It clearly descends from Kubler-Ross, but I think it's because her book hit peak cultural saturation in a sort of telephone game form, and nothing anyone said or wrote after that had anywhere near that level of impact.
In my experience, what therapists think Kubler-Ross was right about was her reporting on grieving people's emotions, but in a much more general form: many people are angry, many people bargain, etc. But there's no particular order to it, everyone doesn't feel everything, and there's no right or wrong way to grieve. The closest mainstream psych gets to anything about a specific time period is that if you're completely nonfunctional, like unable to get out of bed, after [some arguable period of time], you probably need help.
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Date: 2017-02-12 12:32 am (UTC)I do meet a lot of grieving people who've been told that bullshit about grief, but they seem to have gotten it from pop psychology articles written by non-professionals, cultural osmosis, and non-therapists they know. It clearly descends from Kubler-Ross, but I think it's because her book hit peak cultural saturation in a sort of telephone game form, and nothing anyone said or wrote after that had anywhere near that level of impact.
In my experience, what therapists think Kubler-Ross was right about was her reporting on grieving people's emotions, but in a much more general form: many people are angry, many people bargain, etc. But there's no particular order to it, everyone doesn't feel everything, and there's no right or wrong way to grieve. The closest mainstream psych gets to anything about a specific time period is that if you're completely nonfunctional, like unable to get out of bed, after [some arguable period of time], you probably need help.