I think it may partially just be...personalities? Probably not as simple as introvert/extravert, but I definitely know people who just make friends everywhere they go via couchsurfing/hitchhiking/going to parties, all of which are scenarios where I cannot imagine making friends at all. It is a mystery to me.
Online - shortcuts a lot for me, because I think I'm rather guarded IRL and there are big chunks of my life that feel too high-stakes or 'weird' to reveal to people I see all the time unless I already know them well, which makes it hard to get to know them well. I suspect this may actually be a common issue for people who are really into fandom, actually. I don't know if that's a piece for you at all.
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Date: 2016-05-10 01:36 pm (UTC)Online - shortcuts a lot for me, because I think I'm rather guarded IRL and there are big chunks of my life that feel too high-stakes or 'weird' to reveal to people I see all the time unless I already know them well, which makes it hard to get to know them well. I suspect this may actually be a common issue for people who are really into fandom, actually. I don't know if that's a piece for you at all.