"The first comment is not about someone who tries to keep in touch long after the other party has lost interest. It's about being bad at keeping in touch at all, even if the other party is clearly very interested in hearing from her. It's basically the opposite of what the post is about, so I don't see why you're confused."
But the comment ends with:
"Of course, I also tend to assume that the burden of keeping in contact is all on me, and when there hasn't been much contact, I always think it's my fault, and down to my lack of reaching out... even when sometimes the other person isn't reaching out either, or doing so even less than I am."
Is not the sentence above telling that while the person commenting beats herself up for supposedly neglecting interaction, in reality the other side also makes no effort, hence the friendship only exist in imagination of the person feeling guilty for being lousy in keeping in touch?
So I was confused why you would send the depressed person wasting her spoons uselessly, attempting to "keep in touch" with people who are not interested in hearing about her at all (no matter how close she might mistakenly feel to them).
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timeasmymeasure
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Date: 2016-04-11 07:05 am (UTC)"The first comment is not about someone who tries to keep in touch long after the other party has lost interest. It's about being bad at keeping in touch at all, even if the other party is clearly very interested in hearing from her. It's basically the opposite of what the post is about, so I don't see why you're confused."
But the comment ends with:
"Of course, I also tend to assume that the burden of keeping in contact is all on me, and when there hasn't been much contact, I always think it's my fault, and down to my lack of reaching out... even when sometimes the other person isn't reaching out either, or doing so even less than I am."
Is not the sentence above telling that while the person commenting beats herself up for supposedly neglecting interaction, in reality the other side also makes no effort, hence the friendship only exist in imagination of the person feeling guilty for being lousy in keeping in touch?
So I was confused why you would send the depressed person wasting her spoons uselessly, attempting to "keep in touch" with people who are not interested in hearing about her at all (no matter how close she might mistakenly feel to them).