As a guilt-ridden (and slightly depressed) person of type #3 who tends not to realize that other people expect frequent contact to be the only way of maintaining feelings of closeness and friendship (while I can and do feel extremely close to and affectionate towards people I haven't talked to in months), let me just say:
I deeply appreciate anyone who understands and accepts that being bad at keeping in touch is very much not the same as a lack of interest in continued friendship. I spend a lot of time feeling horribly guilty at being so bad about keeping in touch, and being afraid that my friends will think I've lost interest.
Of course, I also tend to assume that the burden of keeping in contact is all on me, and when there hasn't been much contact, I always think it's my fault, and down to my lack of reaching out... even when sometimes the other person isn't reaching out either, or doing so even less than I am. So I suppose there is some commonality there, after all!
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Date: 2016-04-11 01:12 am (UTC)I deeply appreciate anyone who understands and accepts that being bad at keeping in touch is very much not the same as a lack of interest in continued friendship. I spend a lot of time feeling horribly guilty at being so bad about keeping in touch, and being afraid that my friends will think I've lost interest.
Of course, I also tend to assume that the burden of keeping in contact is all on me, and when there hasn't been much contact, I always think it's my fault, and down to my lack of reaching out... even when sometimes the other person isn't reaching out either, or doing so even less than I am. So I suppose there is some commonality there, after all!