I'm very inclined to agree with goldjadeocean. For me, I'm often lonely because even when I'm surrounded by people, I have always lacked the quintissential BFF we are presented with in books and movies. I've had friends I considered BFFs, but most have not considered me that way. And so it's been an unstable and unequal friendship that leaves me feeling lonely when all my friends are out with their other friends and I am left alone, instead of with my own special friend. And even if I'm out with my friends, knowing I don't have one person who will get all my jokes or that I can tell everything to, that makes me feel lonely.
And I think Camelot probably means different things to different people. And while I would say it's real, I would also say it's fleeting. Eventually, girls (people, really) pull away from each other as they get older and have different lives and meet significant others and have kids and that's where their attention goes. I was actually just reading a NYTimes piece that talked about how hard it is for adults to make the true life-long friends they made in college. And the other day I was watching a bromance movie with a married friend and I was joking that it was an actual romance because no men truly acted like that with their male friends and she stated that her husband (also a friend) often feels lonely and sad because he doesn't have true friendship like that and he wishes it did - which reminds me of myself and how I view female friendships in the media.
So yes, we are indeed all alone, all together. The problem is that life gets in the way and we're often not able to bond over the mutual aloneness we feel.
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Date: 2012-07-16 05:41 pm (UTC)And I think Camelot probably means different things to different people. And while I would say it's real, I would also say it's fleeting. Eventually, girls (people, really) pull away from each other as they get older and have different lives and meet significant others and have kids and that's where their attention goes. I was actually just reading a NYTimes piece that talked about how hard it is for adults to make the true life-long friends they made in college. And the other day I was watching a bromance movie with a married friend and I was joking that it was an actual romance because no men truly acted like that with their male friends and she stated that her husband (also a friend) often feels lonely and sad because he doesn't have true friendship like that and he wishes it did - which reminds me of myself and how I view female friendships in the media.
So yes, we are indeed all alone, all together. The problem is that life gets in the way and we're often not able to bond over the mutual aloneness we feel.