One thing that I have been mulling over as I read these books is Jane Austen's vision of thinking about others, and how often it involves patient, repeated, almost daily interactions in which you never betray the fact that you are annoyed with Your Annoying Neighbor Who You Don't Like. Or in Sense and Sensibility, Marianne's over-sensibility shows in the fact that when she's unhappy, people can tell.

It's so at odds with what you might call the internet ideal of Cut Toxic People Out of Your Life - although I think it is an internet ideal partly because it's so much easier to practice on the internet... Very difficult to cut off Brad from accounting who is always talking about his bowling league for some reason. (Coworkers = the modern-day equivalent of Austen's neighbors? People who will inescapably have to interact with whether you want to or not...)