Could letting acknowledging that girls can have hot tempers--acceptance of that--be somehow complementary with feeling comfortable with men who weep and have deep friendships with their same-sex peers, and who hold hands, etc.? In other words, maybe just there was broader compass for how people behave? ... Or maybe a hot flaring temper was seen (by male and female novelists alike) as more honest (and male, LOL, and therefore good) than the sorts of coping techniques women who successfully quashed displays of emotion got up to. Better someone who breaks as slate over your head than someone who does something sneaky--that kind of thing. Though probably novel burning is always a little much.